Let's hear some breakup stories....

Came home from a trip a day early to find my (now ex-) wife in our bed with a truck driver from down the street -- he looks up and says "it is what it is" ..........................was only able to get one good swing with a baseball bat to the small of his back before he was able to run out the door. No idea where that woman even lives at this point.
 
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Here's my story:

I started dating my high school girlfriend my junior year and she was a sophomore. We continued dating even when I went to college. About a month into college she breaks up with me. I was heart broken at the time. She then starts to text me a couple of months later after we hadn't talked in a couple of months. I find out that she is dating someone else, not that I really cared, but then she tells me how her life is falling apart as cries about three times a day. I guess she found out how stressful senior year in high school is.

Anyway, I get home from college because of winter break. I decided to meet her face to face and we talk. She breaks with her current boyfriend and we eventually start dating again. Fast forward to six months. We start having some rough patches in the relationship. I knew that the relationship was going to end. So I go over to her house and we talk in which I know that we won't be dating by the end of the night.

I began to leave and we talk by my car. She says that she doesn't know whether or not if she wants to keep dating and that I was too mature for her. Then she compares our relationship to those in the movies and proceeds to talk about how you know what the main character should do in a time like this, which I thought was stupid. I knew she wanted to end the relationship but she couldn't bring herself to do it because she would have felt like a real ***** since it was her idea to get back together in the first place. I figured that she couldn't break up with, so me I broke up with her releasing her of that burden.
 
Came home from a trip a day early to find my (now ex-) wife in our bed with a truck driver from down the street -- he looks up and says "it is what it is" ..........................was only able to get one good swing with a baseball bat to the small of his back before he was able to run out the door. No idea where that woman even lives at this point.


Wow, I think I would do the very same thing. Probably good you only got one swing in. That ******* could have sued.
 
My girlfriend from high school did not go to college the first year. I then met my future best friend at UNI before going to Ames. Saw both of them till my soph year in Ames. Tried to break up with the first one a couple of times. The high school gal even moved into the dorm next to my frat to keep close contact. The UNI gal was still at UNI when around XMAS time the high school galfriend said that she had to break up with me because a vetmed major had impregnated her while she was drunk in the ISU Union. I said to her stuff happens. Saw her on campus a few times after that and she stayed to work in phy ed dept at ISU. She ended up marrying that vetmed (who later cheated on her) and having several kids. This event allowed me to gracefully break up with her. God works in mysterious ways.
 
I remember when I was in preschool me and this chick were going out, yeah we were real hot heavy. We'd hang out on the monkey bars, cruise around on my knight rider big wheel and even sleep next to each other at nap time. Then one day I see her give a kiss to another kid by the swings. I went over there and called her a doodyhead and we were through. Swore off chicks until the second grade.
 
I had a girlfriend my senior year of HS that was diametrically opposed to me in just about every way (religion, politics, general attitude about everything, etc). We were together for about 7 months when we about to start at ISU. For a couple months I was doubting where our relationship was going, and during the first week at ISU, I tried to break up with her (there was another girl I was working with at the time who was more interesting).

She fought back hard, even showed up outside the door of some of my classes and gave me tearful, hurt looks or long-winded notes (the kind you exchange in 8th grade). That sure didn't make me want to reunite. It wasn't long before I started dating the other girl, and when she found out, that made her stop.

Of course, this other girl was younger than me, and she always had a convenient excuse for not remembering we had something planned. Over time she warmed up to me more and we started hanging out more. Then she left for Germany for a couple weeks and wasn't the same when she came back. We didn't see each other much for awhile after that, then finally she calls and wants to talk. We meet and have that awkward "need to take a break" exchange. Then found out a couple weeks later she had been dating another guy for awhile. Not really surprised.

Man, I was so happy when I met my future wife. There wasn't any of that pettiness. It makes such a difference when you find the right one.
 
In college I dated a girl for about 7 months or so that was originally from California and had never lived in the Midwest. She was a little homesick and the last couple months of the relationship wound up being hell for me because it seemed like all we would do was fight. Well she apparently thought I was "the one" and had already been planning out what we were going to do after graduation which included me moving to California with her which had never once been discussed until she brought up her whole "master plan" one night that was based entirely off assumptions. She was also dealing with some depression because of her being homesick too and was seeing a counsoler while I was on the road interning that summer and what really set me off was "well my counsoler said (insert something involving me here) which I said maybe her counsoler should talk with me first before telling me what I am or am not doing considering anything she said in her sessions probably had some bias to it. Not long after all this I broke it off with her because I was not happy in the relationship anymore and she kind of saw it coming I think because she would not even let me come over to break up in person. I called to ask if she was home so I could come over and talk and she said "if you are coming over to break up with me don't come over." So I had no choice but to break up over the phone.

That night she kept calling me crying and asking why, I kept telling her she needed to call a friend or family and not me if she was looking for comfort because how was I going to do that? Was so bad I told her after I hung up for the last time that night I was turning off my cell phone, unplugging the phone in my apartment, and if she showed up at my door I was calling the cops. Thankfully she listened to that and left me alone for a couple days before making contact again when she was in the right state of mind to think and talk clearly.


Now she stalks your family members via Facebook.
 
I don't have any really good breakup stories, as I only had one girlfriend prior to meeting my wife, and I'm still friends with her. My history is more about having my heart ripped out of my chest, tossed to the ground, stomped on, ran over with a semi truck, having a gigantic crap taken on it, and then being stuck back in my chest by various girls at various times, all of which always seemed to be of the opinion that they were far too good for me.

But hey, then I met my wife, which is proof that there are actually good women out there...

Same here but no wife yet.
 
Had lots of.. lets call them girlfriends during my first couple years of college. Each one of them ended the same way:

Wake up in a bed/place I had never seen before.
Me: "I'm sorry, I can't remember your name."
Girl: "It's _____."
Me: "I'm sorry _____, it's not me, it's you!"
Exit stage left.
 
Had lots of.. lets call them girlfriends during my first couple years of college. Each one of them ended the same way:

Wake up in a bed/place I had never seen before.
Me: "I'm sorry, I can't remember your name."
Girl: "It's _____."
Me: "I'm sorry _____, it's not me, it's you!"
Exit stage left.

By any chance are you and Al4State friends? :jimlad:
 
Had lots of.. lets call them girlfriends during my first couple years of college. Each one of them ended the same way:

Wake up in a bed/place I had never seen before.
Me: "I'm sorry, I can't remember your name."
Girl: "It's _____."
Me: "I'm sorry _____, it's not me, it's you!"
Exit stage left.

Heavens to murgatroyd.
 
Had lots of.. lets call them girlfriends during my first couple years of college. Each one of them ended the same way:

Wake up in a bed/place I had never seen before.
Me: "I'm sorry, I can't remember your name."
Girl: "It's _____."
Me: "I'm sorry _____, it's not me, it's you!"
Exit stage left.


[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U8TnhNxKNlU]YouTube - It's Not You, It's Me[/ame]
 
Same here but no wife yet.

Let's see, the worst one of those ever...

It was right before I started dating my wife. I asked this one girl out that I was interested in to a dinner and a show (a good friend of mine was starring in a musical being shown by a local musical guild) - the kind of thing she in particular was interested in. Then, a couple of days before we were to go out, she calls up my sister and tells her to tell me that she's calling it off, no explanation, no nothing - she just won't go out with me. Needless to say, pretty much at that moment my sister and I were no longer friends with her and, after word leaked to our rather large circle of friends about the stunt she pulled, she for the most part disappeared from the group.

That being said, sometimes I don't know what's worse - dealing with the ***** that thinks she's too good for you (when clearly the opposite is true, although you're blind to it at the time), or being interested in the girl that's your best friend, the girl that you do everything for and are there for all of her problems, but she sees you "like her brother" and dates every single d-bag available and you're the one that she goes to to pick up the pieces every time the guy treats her like ****. Actually, the first is clearly worse, but you can only put up with the second for so long.
 
or being interested in the girl that's your best friend, the girl that you do everything for and are there for all of her problems, but she sees you "like her brother" and dates every single d-bag available and you're the one that she goes to to pick up the pieces every time the guy treats her like ****. Actually, the first is clearly worse, but you can only put up with the second for so long.

The 2nd is clearly worse. There is nothing worse then being imprisoned in the "friend zone".
 
The 2nd is clearly worse. There is nothing worse then being imprisoned in the "friend zone".

Definately. I was in that zone for two years. I waited that whole two years for her to break up with her ********* thinking the whole time that if that happened, we would at least give it a shot. In fact, there was no question in my mind that it would happen. I never thought they would break up, but they did. So they break up and the next weekend I am in Okoboji and she calls me. Her and her friends want to come up but they don't have anywhere to stay. Rather conveniently, we still had a room open at my buddies house. They come they stay there, I had other things I had said I would do on Saturday, so they went to the beach and I did those other things. My buddy and I go out that night and meet up with them. her friend tells me I need to take action on this thing because she feels similar to how I do. We just hang out for awhile at a bar, then we kind of had little moment right before we had to part ways again because they were staying at one of her friends friends place. I leave thinking this is going to take off. Really felt good about myself because I wasn't even in the same sport, let alone league of this girl. We talk a little over the course of the next week. I then get a call from her. She says she doesn't know what to do. Her ex wants to get back together but she has been talking to someone else. Good sign. She tells me, she is going to totally let go of the ex in the end and go another direction. Great sign. Two weeks later she is dating her high school boyfriend. I am not her high school boyfriend. So then a couple months later I am in town. She finds this out and thinks I need to meet this guy. OK, I am too nice to just blow her off. So I go meet him. We are all at the bar for a few hours. The guy is cool ****. That's what sucks. I have no chance now, however to top it all off and make it worse, about twice a month I get a random text from her saying how much she misses me. I have quit responding.
 
The 2nd is clearly worse. There is nothing worse then being imprisoned in the "friend zone".

I wholeheartedly disagree - some of my wife's and my best friends this day are ladies that had me trapped in the "friend zone" - and knowing what I know now, I wouldn't trade the relationship I have with my wife now for the "furthering" of any of those relationships, especially if that could have negatively impacted those friendships now. While it sometimes sucks at the time and you don't understand why, sometimes that crap that you end up going through works out for the best.
 
I wholeheartedly disagree - some of my wife's and my best friends this day are ladies that had me trapped in the "friend zone" - and knowing what I know now, I wouldn't trade the relationship I have with my wife now for the "furthering" of any of those relationships, especially if that could have negatively impacted those friendships now. While it sometimes sucks at the time and you don't understand why, sometimes that crap that you end up going through works out for the best.

I there is one thing that makes the second worse. In the first, you can turn her attitude into something to be angry about or a reason you don't want to be with her and you can turn yourself off.

In the friend zone, you really can't do that. I can't anyway. You still like that person as a person. I don't feel like you can just turn that one off.
 
I wholeheartedly disagree - some of my wife's and my best friends this day are ladies that had me trapped in the "friend zone" - and knowing what I know now, I wouldn't trade the relationship I have with my wife now for the "furthering" of any of those relationships, especially if that could have negatively impacted those friendships now. While it sometimes sucks at the time and you don't understand why, sometimes that crap that you end up going through works out for the best.


I have a good friend from college that apperently there was mutual interest that existed for a few days before she met a guy I'd eventually be roommates with and she'd eventually marry.

Being stuck in the friend zone seems like it sucks at first, because she was a smart, interesting person.

However the fact that there had been mutal interest came out about 4 years after we met on a beach in Spain where the two of us were standing with our feet in the water, eatting cherries and drinking our respective drinks (jack and coke for me, wine for her) Hell the fact that I was IN Spain was because she talked me into going.

Having known her for four years, I could confidently stand on the beach and say had we tried dating we probably wouldn't have even been friends at that point, as we have some real ideolgical differences. But as friends... we took a 2 month tour / study abroad trip through europe together and her and her husband are two of my closest friends


That said... I would really like to find someone that falls into the marrying category rather than the friend zone category...
 

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