match.com - is this what it has come to?
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This was me after 18 years. My friends were mostly picked by the ex because if she didn't like them then we didn't like them. On top of it I live in NW Iowa which isn't really a hot spot for single 40 somethings.
I did match.com and found someone I am very happy with. Took a lot of surfing and a couple dates that weren't as described (which I don't get) but ya. Happy.
My ex doesn't have any friends of her own, so she leeched onto my friends. Of course they always did something to tick her off or she didn't feel like doing something with them so I ended up having to choose her over them. I love my friends. I realize I never should have given up so much for her. Now my friends all laugh with me about how much of a raging B she was/is.
My new fiance loves my friends and also has some of her own which is healthy for the relationship. She's not completely dependent on me all the time, but still wants to be with me most of the time. All good things. I'm much happier now.
Hopefully without the last part about being anxious to put the weight back on. :smile:
I'm happily married but found this thread super intriguing, but not in a bad way. I hope I never have to be in this boat but I respect those that are and realize the reasons why online dating can be an attractive option. It makes sense, especially for those not in college and over the age of 22. Good work guys and girls on your constructive comments, and I'm sure your advise will help someone out there. Good luck to everyone who is looking to find that someone.
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Well, it looks like after 10 years of marriage I am back into the dating scene. This thread has been extremely helpful.
Since the thread of a couple of years old now I have a couple of questions.
For those how has used online dating what site (or sites) did you find most beneficial and why? There are a plethora of online dating site and I am trying to narrow them down. Also, is there any benefit / advantage to dating sites which are free (OKCupid) versus paid subscription (Match)?
Since the thread of a couple of years old now I have a couple of questions.
For those how has used online dating what site (or sites) did you find most beneficial and why? There are a plethora of online dating site and I am trying to narrow them down. Also, is there any benefit / advantage to dating sites which are free (OKCupid) versus paid subscription (Match)?
I met my wife on an online dating site.
If you don't want to waste your time chatting with someone, suggest meeting for lunch or a drink when you first chat with them. Just at a neutral place. If they do not want to even do that right away, you might want to move along.
I have used online dating and found my current girlfriend (6 months). A couple of observations from my experience. I found using Match.com hard. I found the girls on it to be very picky and/or conservative in chatting with me. It made it hard to even try and meet with someone face to face. I didn't find the value in paying for the subscription to a place like match.com.
I found more success on the free sites. I found the girls to be more willing to engage in an online conversation, which led to more face to face dates. I most recently used coffee meets bagel.
I found more success on the free sites. I found the girls to be more willing to engage in an online conversation, which led to more face to face dates. I most recently used coffee meets bagel.
I've had the most luck on eHarmony and okcupid. I don't know why but I've had zero luck at match. That said, I live 2 hours from any major population center so I think that plays into it. I think a lot of women look at that distance and aren't dying to drive that far, especially if they have kids.
I did Match, had lots of 'success', if you know what I mean.
That being said, I think trying to get involved in some general activities like biking, volleyball, working out, hobbies, etc etc is also very important as well. If nothing else, it makes you more interesting to the people you meet online.
oh, and don't say 'chicks'. Apparently that is bad.
That being said, I think trying to get involved in some general activities like biking, volleyball, working out, hobbies, etc etc is also very important as well. If nothing else, it makes you more interesting to the people you meet online.
oh, and don't say 'chicks'. Apparently that is bad.
I did Match, had lots of 'success', if you know what I mean.
That being said, I think trying to get involved in some general activities like biking, volleyball, working out, hobbies, etc etc is also very important as well. If nothing else, it makes you more interesting to the people you meet online.
oh, and don't say 'chicks'. Apparently that is bad.
If your wife only knew ahead of time for your habit of forgetting your kids at school she might have reconsidered the meeting.
I did Match, had lots of 'success', if you know what I mean.
That being said, I think trying to get involved in some general activities like biking, volleyball, working out, hobbies, etc etc is also very important as well. If nothing else, it makes you more interesting to the people you meet online.
oh, and don't say 'chicks'. Apparently that is bad.
So what happens with on line dating sites when after a few successful "dates" one party wants exclusivity, but the other keeps their status as "available"? seems like a set up for problems.