match.com - is this what it has come to?
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If you can invite her to something public or with a group, even if she brings a friend, it will make it that much easier to ease her mind. Guys can be creeps, women tend to be on guard for that. But like mentioned by others, join a group, charity, etc. Get out there and be social. If you really like someone, friend their friends first, get in their circle.
Exactly.
I've been there recently. It's hard to put yourself out there, especially when you aren't confident in yourself.
If you aren't optimistic about your chances on a dating site then work on yourself for a little while. Take one hour, ever day, and go to the gym or go for a walk with your dog. That's ONE hour long TV show that you just have to skip. One show a day that you can do without.
Even if the results are drastic, you will feel better because you are DOING something about it.
I was single after 9 years of marriage and I had no clue what to do. I had no self confidence and I was depressed as crap. I started focusing on me, instead of worrying about my ex, and I felt better eventually.
Hang out with your friends more. I was somewhat alienated from my friends after my first marriage. I started hanging out with my friends more and I remembered how it felt to be myself. I'm a funny, happy guy. I had a blast tailgating and catching up with everyone. And if you're lucky, your friends wives might have someone they'd like you to meet.
But first you have to like yourself before anyone else can like you.
Oh, and I fully realize that this is easier said than done.
It's much easier to just sit at home and veg out than it is to take an active role in your life.
But I can assure you, it's worth it. Even if you don't find someone to be with, you will like yourself more.
I wasn't saying there's something wrong with wanting someone special in your life, I just thought the reason "it'd be nice to have someone around" seemed a little strange.
Yeah a lot of times it's easier to socialize in a large group setting. ISU Tailgates are great for this. Encourage your friends to bring along some single ladies that they know!
That makes sense. Your opinion on what you need changes over time. Some people, after being single for so long, just want companionship more than romance. If you find someone like-minded, that can work out.
I wanted to find someone to marry and love, and I did!
You know how hard it is to find a gal who is a Cyclone fan when you work in and live near Iowa City?
Sheeeesh! :twitcy:
Sheeeesh! :twitcy:
Oh, I don't sit at home all the time...need to lose a few pounds :spinny: (and am working on that) but I get out. I video for the hs football coach, go to cross country meets(help local hs team) and track meets, even go to movies and such. Haven't been to any Cyclone games in a while (don't judge me...got a kid doing college sports so go to those
)Just not sure I want to take a chance and put myself out there again.
)Just not sure I want to take a chance and put myself out there again.
I understand this pain. Living near Cedar Falls I'm surrounded by pantherhawks. I'll be moving to Omaha in a month, and then its going to be stupid husker/creighton hybrids.
My parents live in Omaha and, everytime I visit, I'm surprised how much Iowa State gear I see out and about. At least now I can find something to agree with Husker fans about....which is, of course, slamming the hoks.
Just saw this a minute ago and thought it was appropriate for this thread: http://www.theonion.com/article/div...ult&utm_medium=ShareTools&utm_source=facebook
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First off - lots of good reading and opinions.
So I am brand new at this and have been happy with Match - it is all I know. Yeah you have to be cool with no reply's but you can get what you are looking for. I have dated some cool ladies and talked to even more that ended up not being what I am after. I couple things I think would help everyone:
Define better what body type is - 5'4" 150 lbs and 5'4" 250 lbs both are not the same.
Full body, recent and clear pictures
As a user look at people you have dated in the past and realize the people you can get look like this
Spend time on your profile and be honest if you actually want it to work
So I am brand new at this and have been happy with Match - it is all I know. Yeah you have to be cool with no reply's but you can get what you are looking for. I have dated some cool ladies and talked to even more that ended up not being what I am after. I couple things I think would help everyone:
Define better what body type is - 5'4" 150 lbs and 5'4" 250 lbs both are not the same.
Full body, recent and clear pictures
As a user look at people you have dated in the past and realize the people you can get look like this
Spend time on your profile and be honest if you actually want it to work