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match.com - is this what it has come to?

Daserop said:
I am happily married but I have always wondered a couple of things about online dating sites.

1. Are most online dating site setup for male female relationships or are there options for same sex relationships?
2. Do these online dating sites allow the user to search by ethnicity? I assume no but don't know for sure.
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I haven't used the online versions. Their predecessors (newpaper personal ads) allowed users to self-identify, and indicate whether they were seeking m/f...but you always had to be mildly skeptical, same as now.

One thing I forgot to mention - the downside of online matchups is location location location. If you're looking for companionship, starting up a relationship with someone 1500 miles away is a bit of a step backwards. :)
 
BigCojones said:
Your story is almost like mine was. Except I went to the buckle. Dropped 800 on new clothes. I thought I would be ready for a new relationship but i wasn't. In fact once I realize d how easy it was to have sex with chics on match I was taking them left and right and it was hard to settle down.
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were the girls actually there during all this sex?
 
DandyCyclone said:
One of my wife's good friends got married last month to a guy she met on match.com so just stick with it until you meet someone worth dating. Patience is key when it comes to courting a long term relationship.
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Hmmmm....now I'm a little confused.
 
Cyclonepride said:
Oh, and be prepared for the "friends with benefits" option to be offered almost every time you let them know that you aren't interested in pursuing the relationship. Not judging them for offering, and not saying it is easy to say no, but it's definitely something that you will encounter.
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But be careful. You get them knocked up and you are still on the hook.
 
dmclone said:
Maybe my mind would change if I was actually single but as someone in their mid 40's if I was single again I think I would be happy being single for the rest of my life. I'm probably biased since I've been with the same woman for over 20 years.
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This is me. If something happened to my wife, I would not marry again. Probably just focus on the kids and other personal interests.
 
dmclone said:
Maybe my mind would change if I was actually single but as someone in their mid 40's if I was single again I think I would be happy being single for the rest of my life. I'm probably biased since I've been with the same woman for over 20 years.
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You can miss a companion from time to time, but I certainly don't regret my single-ness post-divorce. Depends on your personality though. I tend to be very independent, so it also doesn't bother me to stay home on a Friday night alone if I don't feel like going out.
 
Rolling Clones said:
Rule #1 - If she won't provide a full-body shot photo.....run fast.
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Its funny how many people fall for it too. I have a buddy that has been duped many times through Tinder and Facebook. The last one he got to dinner and met her there, sat down and just said to himself are you kidding me? Waited 2 minutes to go to the bathroom and then left her without saying a word :twitcy:
 
itown said:
New member here and also newly divorced. So married 10 years and moved here following my two young kids. I got on match and really miss the real thing of meeting someone before wasting my name chatting with ladies that are not as described. Here comes the sad part - new to the area (don't know anyone) and work in a very small office.

I don't tan, shave my body or wear bedazzled pants - if you do, I don't judge!

So let me hear what others have done or are doing?
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Used Match.COM in 2007, met wife in 6 months. Married 6 years now with three kids. Match is great. Didn't ask for a full body shot either. You'll find out after your first meeting if she's okay to you or not. We chatted maybe 2 times decided to meet during the day and were into every day since.
 
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I suppose its as good a place to meet someone as any. I was always so glad I didnt meet my wife online. Unfortunately, the last 6 months have made me fearful of being in that position again someday. I don't have the stomach for it. Trolling on match sounds like a nightmare. How the heck did you guys married for a number of years do it. I dont think I'll ever want it, but I guess its nice to know some people survive!

I did troll on there when the site was new, and mostly free. Was ok then, as a single guy with no kids. Cant recall if I ever met anyone or not.
 
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chadly82 said:
Its funny how many people fall for it too. I have a buddy that has been duped many times through Tinder and Facebook. The last one he got to dinner and met her there, sat down and just said to himself are you kidding me? Waited 2 minutes to go to the bathroom and then left her without saying a word :twitcy:
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Life is too short to waste time trying to remember all the different lies about yourself that you've told people on-line. The truth will come out eventually. There's no doubt that physical appearance plays a part in attraction, but it's a very shallow person that uses that metric exclusively when meeting people.

Side note: PapaLew & I were something of an anomaly when we met thru datemaker and married. I'm fascinated by how many people in this thread have met spouses on-line. It's not such a stigma any more, is it?
 
ImJustKCClone said:
Life is too short to waste time trying to remember all the different lies about yourself that you've told people on-line. The truth will come out eventually. There's no doubt that physical appearance plays a part in attraction, but it's a very shallow person that uses that metric exclusively when meeting people.

Side note: PapaLew & I were something of an anomaly when we met thru datemaker and married. I'm fascinated by how many people in this thread have met spouses on-line. It's not such a stigma any more, is it?
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I understand what you're trying to say, but I disagree. Attraction shouldn't be most important, but there's got to be something there.

Attraction for someone will always increase (or decrease) as you get to know them, but the spark has to be there somewhere at all times.
 
cyrocksmypants said:
I understand what you're trying to say, but I disagree. Attraction shouldn't be most important, but there's got to be something there.

Attraction for someone will always increase (or decrease) as you get to know them, but the spark has to be there somewhere at all times.
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You cant be with someone long term if all the other stuff isnt there but if that initial attraction isnt there youre wasting your time in my opinion. Ive never met a girl and not initially been attracted to her and then dated her. If the physical attraction isnt there off the bat its automatically to the friend zone.
 
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