match.com - is this what it has come to?

I read this and thought of this.....

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Wrong song, sugar. More like the "Little Old Lady From Pasadena". Grannie's got a leadfoot. ;)
 
I went on a date this past week and she told me I look better in person. I knew I didn't have the best pictures but I almost got up and left to have a professional take some and update my profile. You are not kidding - pictures are important!

Don't got full Glamour Shots though

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Find a friend and have them take a few casual shots outside with a decent camera or phone with a good camera.
 
Don't got full Glamour Shots though

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Find a friend and have them take a few casual shots outside with a decent camera or phone with a good camera.

That could work! No way would a post a picture with no shirt. I exercise but not the vibe I am wanting to give off.
 
Maybe my mind would change if I was actually single but as someone in their mid 40's if I was single again I think I would be happy being single for the rest of my life. I'm probably biased since I've been with the same woman for over 20 years.
 
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Maybe my mind would change if I was actually single but as someone in their mid 40's if I was single again I think I would be happy being single for the rest of my life. I'm probably biased since I've been with the same woman for over 20 years.

How would you feel if you didn't have that woman though?

I was married for just shy of 9 years and it felt weird being single again. Some of it was fun but it was also a bit lonely. I had my dog so she kept me company. Just weird not speaking to anyone at home for days at a time. I talked to my dog a lot as a result.

I got to do whatever I wanted for a while but I definitely wanted somebody to love. (Cue the song)
 
How would you feel if you didn't have that woman though?

I was married for just shy of 9 years and it felt weird being single again. Some of it was fun but it was also a bit lonely. I had my dog so she kept me company. Just weird not speaking to anyone at home for days at a time. I talked to my dog a lot as a result.

I got to do whatever I wanted for a while but I definitely wanted somebody to love. (Cue the song)

You're probably right. Once a year or so she'll be gone a week for work and I'll be by myself. By the end of the week I'm kind of a mess.
 
New member here and also newly divorced. So married 10 years and moved here following my two young kids. I got on match and really miss the real thing of meeting someone before wasting my name chatting with ladies that are not as described. Here comes the sad part - new to the area (don't know anyone) and work in a very small office.

I don't tan, shave my body or wear bedazzled pants - if you do, I don't judge!

So let me hear what others have done or are doing?

Your story is almost like mine was. Except I went to the buckle. Dropped 800 on new clothes. I thought I would be ready for a new relationship but i wasn't. In fact once I realize d how easy it was to have sex with chics on match I was taking them left and right and it was hard to settle down.
 
New member here and also newly divorced. So married 10 years and moved here following my two young kids. I got on match and really miss the real thing of meeting someone before wasting my name chatting with ladies that are not as described. Here comes the sad part - new to the area (don't know anyone) and work in a very small office.

I don't tan, shave my body or wear bedazzled pants - if you do, I don't judge!

So let me hear what others have done or are doing?

I met my wife online, and you do have to go through a process (and meet people who are not as described). Here's how I did it:

1. Talk by private message for a little while. Maybe a week, depending on what kind of vibe you're getting.

If she passes that step:

2. Talk by phone at least a couple times, long enough to get a sense of their personality. Don't set up any romantic expectations in your mind or in hers as that puts more pressure on the actual meeting. Just let them know that you are interested in finding someone to hang out with, and that gives you the chance to leave it there or pursue it further if you meet and decide that she is right for you in some ways.

If she passes that step:

3. Meet in person. Don't rush anything, just get to know them.

If she passes that step:

4. Here's the big one when you have kids (I have one): After a couple dates (or before sex), think to yourself whether she is someone that you would want to introduce to your kids. If not, end it there. I don't suppose that you would have to, but it gets really awkward when you're sleeping with someone and yet won't let them meet your kids.

You do have to go through a lot of dating and meeting people that don't turn out to be as expected, but in the end, I thought it was a great way to meet people.
 
Don't got full Glamour Shots though

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Find a friend and have them take a few casual shots outside with a decent camera or phone with a good camera.

I have this hung up in my garage. A co-worker bought it at a garage sale and gave it to me, I laugh every time I see it.
 
Maybe my mind would change if I was actually single but as someone in their mid 40's if I was single again I think I would be happy being single for the rest of my life. I'm probably biased since I've been with the same woman for over 20 years.

I'm not too far off that radar, and I've got great friends so I'd stay busy. The part that scares me is when I'm 80 years old, who's gonna be there that cares?
 
Your story is almost like mine was. Except I went to the buckle. Dropped 800 on new clothes. I thought I would be ready for a new relationship but i wasn't. In fact once I realize d how easy it was to have sex with chics on match I was taking them left and right and it was hard to settle down.

tru dat

like shooting fish in a barrel
 
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I am happily married but I have always wondered a couple of things about online dating sites.

1. Are most online dating site setup for male female relationships or are there options for same sex relationships?
2. Do these online dating sites allow the user to search by ethnicity? I assume no but don't know for sure.
 
I am happily married but I have always wondered a couple of things about online dating sites.

1. Are most online dating site setup for male female relationships or are there options for same sex relationships?
2. Do these online dating sites allow the user to search by ethnicity? I assume no but don't know for sure.

1. Pretty sure they allow all options

2. I think so?
 
Oh, and be prepared for the "friends with benefits" option to be offered almost every time you let them know that you aren't interested in pursuing the relationship. Not judging them for offering, and not saying it is easy to say no, but it's definitely something that you will encounter.
 
Oh, and be prepared for the "friends with benefits" option to be offered almost every time you let them know that you aren't interested in pursuing the relationship. Not judging them for offering, and not saying it is easy to say no, but it's definitely something that you will encounter.


So you're saying there are a lot of starved for attention desperate people out there......
 
I'm not too far off that radar, and I've got great friends so I'd stay busy. The part that scares me is when I'm 80 years old, who's gonna be there that cares?

That is sad to think about, especially people like myself who are childless. I spent about 20 minutes in a nursing home yesterday and it was enough time for me to decide that I would choose death before a nursing home.
 

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