Engagement Ring Advice Needed
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Congrat's man!!
If her father is traditional, I'd suggest asking him for her hand in marriage(i.e....ask his permission). Sounds old fashioned, but is gold if it means a lot to him.
Ring size? Normally a gal wanting to get engaged will smartly find a way to be sure you know this. A lot of times her best friend mysteriously knows.
If not, you can try to get a ring she wears on her ring finger and get that sized (long shot) or if you want to keep it a surprise, do your best guess but be sure to buy from a local jeweler that can size the ring later (after you've given it to her) while you wait. That eliminates the mall jewelers (which is good anyway) since they have to send rings out to be sized.
Good luck!
If her father is traditional, I'd suggest asking him for her hand in marriage(i.e....ask his permission). Sounds old fashioned, but is gold if it means a lot to him.
Ring size? Normally a gal wanting to get engaged will smartly find a way to be sure you know this. A lot of times her best friend mysteriously knows.
If not, you can try to get a ring she wears on her ring finger and get that sized (long shot) or if you want to keep it a surprise, do your best guess but be sure to buy from a local jeweler that can size the ring later (after you've given it to her) while you wait. That eliminates the mall jewelers (which is good anyway) since they have to send rings out to be sized. Good luck!
I would just take her with you when you pick it out. It sounds like she might be expecting anyway seeing you have been together so long. It's actually a fun process to do together and you'll have a good idea as to what she wants.
What not to do:
We were eating out near valentines day at a nicer restaurant. We were sitting in an area that had one raised table at one end and almost a circle of tables on either wall.
Right away we noticed a large vase of roses on the raised table with a couple eating. The waiter came by with a large box (maybe 12inX12in). We think it was filled with cake and the guy motioned to his date that she needed to find something in the box.
So she dug around a bit....five minutes later she hasn't found anything and puts down the fork. The guy panics a little bit and digs himself and somehow talks her into looking again. The ring is finally found and he gets on one knee and asks her. She immediately spun away from him looking like she was ticked off and would refuse, but after a minute does end up saying yes.
The waiter came back asking them how it went then he turned to our section (all of us had been watching) and announced it!
We were eating out near valentines day at a nicer restaurant. We were sitting in an area that had one raised table at one end and almost a circle of tables on either wall.
Right away we noticed a large vase of roses on the raised table with a couple eating. The waiter came by with a large box (maybe 12inX12in). We think it was filled with cake and the guy motioned to his date that she needed to find something in the box.
So she dug around a bit....five minutes later she hasn't found anything and puts down the fork. The guy panics a little bit and digs himself and somehow talks her into looking again. The ring is finally found and he gets on one knee and asks her. She immediately spun away from him looking like she was ticked off and would refuse, but after a minute does end up saying yes.
The waiter came back asking them how it went then he turned to our section (all of us had been watching) and announced it!
I don't remember how hubby knew my ring size, but he had bought me a ring for a bday gift a few years before we were engaged. He had already graduated ISU and was working in KS and I was spending the summer in Ames. He got in later in the evening and suggested we take a walk around campus (like 11pm or so). We walked around campus and ended up under he campanile at midnight. Yes, we are truly an Iowa State couple. 
Looking back on the evening, he had his shirt untucked to cover the shape of the ring box in his pocket. He never wears his shirts untucked.
Looking back on the evening, he had his shirt untucked to cover the shape of the ring box in his pocket. He never wears his shirts untucked.I don't remember how hubby knew my ring size, but he had bought me a ring for a bday gift a few years before we were engaged. He had already graduated ISU and was working in KS and I was spending the summer in Ames. He got in later in the evening and suggested we take a walk around campus (like 11pm or so). We walked around campus and ended up under he campanile at midnight. Yes, we are truly an Iowa State couple.
My husband bought me a ring as a Christmas present the year before he proposed. I think that was how he got a close size to my ring finger. He proposed at a restaurant.
I did wonder why he was not eating like normal though...but it was for a good reason
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CyBer
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My husband bought me a ring as a Christmas present the year before he proposed. I think that was how he got a close size to my ring finger. He proposed at a restaurant.
I did wonder why he was not eating like normal though...but it was for a good reason
Ha yeah I probably will be nervous as hell, and I agree, the cake idea was a bad idea. I'm going to keep it simple.
Congrats Cyber. My wife has tiny hands and is a 4.5
I think I originally got her a 6, so don't be too concerned. They can size them up or down atleast 1 size pretty easily if its a normal place.
Does she wear any rings on any fingers?
I think I originally got her a 6, so don't be too concerned. They can size them up or down atleast 1 size pretty easily if its a normal place.
Does she wear any rings on any fingers?
I proposed to my fiance last summer by taking her on a surprise trip to NYC. I told her that we were going 4 days before we left and proposed when we got there by the Bow bridge in Central Park.
She was pretty surprised by all of it. My advice is if you are going on a trip, don't do it in front of people, it means more when it is between you two. If people see, whatever, but don't make a point of it (Although, I am sure you would CyBer, since attention is your middle name).
I have no idea what your budget is, but as everyone said avoid Mall Jewelers. There is a place in CR called Seigels that has great people and great prices. Basically, diamonds/rings there start around 40% off and can go much further. I paid about 45% of what my diamond was worth (according to some certification they gave me). If you PM, me, I may be able to give you a little more info on specific diamonds that you are looking at.
Also, ring size isn't that big of a deal, I got my fiance a 7 and she ended up being a 6. She still wore the ring in NY, but just got it resized when we got home, no biggie.
Good luck my man, and if she does say Yes, my downright biggest piece of advice, do a small (possible elope) wedding. There is nothing worse than trying to get the parents eye to eye on things. If there is something that me and my fiance get in arguments about, it typically stems from wedding crap that really isn't that important in the first place.
My advice is to propose, but let her pick out the ring. It's not just a diamond, it's a piece of jewelry and it's very personal. You really have to try things on to know what you want. And I do know girls who did not want an engagement ring because of the wedding band they picked out.
When my husband and I were getting engaged we were living several states apart. My husband bought a stone and then I picked out the setting and he ordered it. It was the best thing that ever happended because the jeweler sold me a setting, not a diamond and I learned a lot. He encouraged me to upgrade to 18k gold, get a comfort band, and to plan for the wedding band and possible anniversary bands plus a lot of other stuff you probably don't care about.
Good luck with whatever you decide!
When my husband and I were getting engaged we were living several states apart. My husband bought a stone and then I picked out the setting and he ordered it. It was the best thing that ever happended because the jeweler sold me a setting, not a diamond and I learned a lot. He encouraged me to upgrade to 18k gold, get a comfort band, and to plan for the wedding band and possible anniversary bands plus a lot of other stuff you probably don't care about.
Good luck with whatever you decide!
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CyBer
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No, this would make it far to easy on me haha. Though I do think she mentioned ring styles that she likes. Whenever my buddies bring up the whole "when are you two getting married" thing, I always act disinterested and it pisses her off LOL.
Also, another piece of advice is to lock it up, because if your CF personality is anything compared to real life, you won't bring any substance to the marriage and she obviously hasn't realized that yet.
^LOL. This.
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CyBer
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Unlike you, she get's the greatness of my humor. I guess she must just be more intelligent than you as she's going to med school :v_SPIN:
The day when cyberswife comes on this board and starts a thread about their relationship could be CF thread gold.
Also good luck cyber
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CyBer
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don't buy into the "clearance" or "sale" words most the time the ring has never been even priced what they say
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CyBer
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So why is she with you again?
She likes sarcasm, and I'm full of it. Also she gets my odd humor, so that's a plus.
But mainly to pay my way in life