Breastfeeding. Yeah no one tells you how hard it is but the world does shame you if you don’t.
Worst of all worlds with oldest, I gave him my breast milk from a bottle. He had low glucose when born and they gave him formula from a tube in his nose. He would never latch on after that. All the lactation experts come in and grab your boob to show you what to do and baby is still all like, why should I work that hard? I am gonna get food the easy way. He was in NICU and was like a baby giant in there at 7 lb., 6 oz. I spent 8 months pumping my milk and giving it to him in a bottle. So always pumping, always messing with bottles. They warned us repeatedly of an association between low glucose and developmental disabilities.

Yeah I need that guilt and depression postpartum. He got a 36 on the ACT.
Other four all took to it easily but was still working with the next two and back then, where I worked, that was very far from easy. More like stressful. I think our highest maternal death rate in the developed world statistic includes through 42 days postpartum. The stress of breastfeeding depressed me. It’s not all sunshine and cuddles, it’s work.