Kids - School Grades

Yeah I bet you actually spent plenty of time teaching once you were outnumbered.
Yep, that was part of the deal. They were all math accelerated pretty young and we did a lot of enrichment activities and traveled to places that they soaked up like a sponge. Looked for fossils, captured bugs, went to museums, made garbage into art, made our own version of quidditch from the Harry Potter books, etc. They loved the Gargoyles cartoon so I read them Macbeth. They were smarter than me pretty early on but they still have a hard time beating their dad at chess.
 
Hahaha well someone said I at MIT, one at Caltech and then 4 cyclones, didn’t fact-check the MIT kid lol

Gotta grade you down on the reading comprehension, too.
Someone did say one at MIT, but Carvers corrected them to point out that one was at Caltech, then added the other four.

I'm in a grading mode, brother. This stuff just jumps out.
 
My daughter graduated from high school in 2016 and college in 2020, so I don’t know if things have changed over these years. I never cared about the grades, I only cared about the effort, She felt enough internal pressure for grades that I didn’t think pressure from me would help. Sometimes I reminded her that school was more important than sports, show choir, or other extracurriculars.
 
Just helped my youngest with accounting. Slower start since he dinged up his knee in a JV game tonight. His mom handles his English and I do everything else.
 
Not a parent but I will say, despite what I think were my parents best intentions, the focus on getting A's in school likely backfired and was partially responsible for a somewhat more meandering path through college than would be ideal.
 
Gotta grade you down on the reading comprehension, too.
Someone did say one at MIT, but Carvers corrected them to point out that one was at Caltech, then added the other four.

I'm in a grading mode, brother. This stuff just jumps out.
This is going to give me the repeating nightmare of somehow screwing up a class I passed a decade ago tonight isn’t it…
 
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I think my kids don't have aspirations of getting into the best schools and stuff. They both just kind of want to go ISU or Iowa and have a good life. And you should be challenging yourself but not burning yourself out. It's a hard balance to strike which is why you just need to talk to them about it.

My kids do a ton of activities. I mean a ton. To the point where I want them to do less stuff but they keep wanting more. So the she is on the other foot for me. I just wanted to sit and home and play Zelda and Madden so I just can't be too picky about anything.

Knowing your wife’s family, I feel confident that the boys have participation in their blood. :)
 
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It depends, if I remember correctly Carvers kids went to top notch colleges like MIT. You don’t get into schools like that with Bs and slacking.

If that's the kid's goal, sure. I don't think any of my kids have any ambitions close to that.
 
Parents know better what kind of students they have (as long as they are not delusional, which unfortunately happens a lot, but that's another story).
I am a firm believer that you must encourage your kids to be the best version of themselves and that starts with the work ethics. If they are A students, then you can tell them that anything less than A would require explanation and analysis why it happens. There is nothing wrong of setting the standards as long as they are not unreasonable.
I am also a firm believer that there is more than grades: the opportunity for them to be kids, to participate in sports, extracurricular activities, etc. There has to be a good balance.
Grades will help you go to college (and good grades will help you going to good colleges) but so are extracurricular and sports. It's a matter of finding a good balance and be smart with things. I know someone who ends up going to Carnegie Mellon for swimming. her grades are obviously good, her swimming time was not good enough for Division I but CMU is not to shabby to go to school, isn't it?

As a parent who just finished going through college application process for my son, grades are just part of the equation. The rest are rigors, extracurricular, essays, tests (if the school requires that). Good schools know that getting B+ in AP classes probably worth more than A in "regular" classes. And that's when work ethics will make a difference because they don't just show up immediately but should be cultivated when the children are little.
 

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