Why is life worth living?

[BCClone]

Seems like you have tried a lot of stuff, might as well give up. That's sarcasm by the way.

That's why its such a difficult situation. He was fine, then a new doctor said, you don't need those meds and tried to take them off them. When they put him back on them, they no longer stabilized him since he was completely whacked out. Haven't found a med that puts him back to where he was, just meds that calms it down so it's not quite as bad. In April it will be 5 years of pure hell for him and basically everyone that will still associate with him.

 

[dmclone]

I won't go into details about my children on here other than to say; Every day I feel intense despair seeing my two amazing children show signs and symptoms of many of my issues.

This is probably a very naïve and insensitive question and feel free to ignore the question but.....

Do you think these things are inherited or learned? Were your parents diagnosed with any of these issues?

I don't have kids so I'm pretty clueless in this field but I find it interesting.

 

[Jeremy]

This is probably a very naïve and insensitive question and feel free to ignore the question but.....

Do you think these things are inherited or learned? Were your parents diagnosed with any of these issues?

I don't have kids so I'm pretty clueless in this field but I find it interesting.

I believe personally based on Drs and studies that it is highly hereditary. I won't speak about my biological father for many reasons. My mother's side does have a history of many of the issues. And I see the same signs and symptoms in my kids at roughly the same ages that I did. Things that aren't normal for their age or even twice their age.

But science is always evolving.

 

[BCClone]

This is probably a very naïve and insensitive question and feel free to ignore the question but.....

Do you think these things are inherited or learned? Were your parents diagnosed with any of these issues?

I don't have kids so I'm pretty clueless in this field but I find it interesting.

What I've noticed, is that there are some that are hereditary. My one friend definitely had it passed to him from his mom, his mom has undiagnosed mental illness but is definitely unstable.

 

[dmclone]

I should have just asked ChatGTP :0

There are several mental health conditions that can be hereditary, meaning they can be passed down from one generation to the next. These conditions may be caused by a combination of genetic and environmental factors. Some examples of mental health conditions that may have a hereditary component include:

• Depression
• Bipolar disorder
• Schizophrenia
• Anxiety disorders
• Personality disorders
• Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)

It is important to note that just because a mental health condition runs in a family does not necessarily mean that a person will develop the condition. There are often other factors at play as well, such as environmental influences and personal experiences.

 

[Jeremy]

And I think the hereditary nature of it accounts for some times why when it does crop up in a family not accustomed to it that it's misdiagnosed or thought as being crazy or a behavior issue. Some of that is just because it's more known and recognized nowadays, but I'll see people at work in their 30s and 40s talk about their kids that I would guess probably have mental issues but they just don't know what that is.

 

[RagingCloner]

If there is anyone on here that needs someone to talk to, or another random friend, please do not hesitate to reach out. Jeremy, thank you for your vulnerability and everything you do for CF.

We appreciate the hell out of you.

 

[State2015]

I believe personally based on Drs and studies that it is highly hereditary. I won't speak about my biological father for many reasons. My mother's side does have a history of many of the issues. And I see the same signs and symptoms in my kids at roughly the same ages that I did. Things that aren't normal for their age or even twice their age.

But science is always evolving.

Separate question - do you or others think kids add to or relieve some of the issues? I feel like it could add to anxiety but also could help keep yourself together for the sake of the kids

 

[BCClone]

Separate question - do you or others think kids add to or relieve some of the issues? I feel like it could add to anxiety but also could help keep yourself together for the sake of the kids

They add stress due to schedules, financials, and thoughts that you aren't being as good of parent as you should be. They also give you great joy and happiness most of the time and can be the main thing that makes you happy.

 

[mywayorcyway]

Start with work: how many of us have changed jobs voluntarily or involuntarily? You don’t expect to spend your career in the same company anymore because layoffs, merger, acquisitions are getting more common.

I had the same job for over a decade and have been surrounded by layoffs and mergers my entire career. I begged to be laid off multiple times and was unsuccessful. I also quit a couple of times... and I even managed to be unsuccessful at that. It was a great job, it just wasn't a great fit for me.

I finally cut the cord and am much better for it. Looking back I have no idea why I waited so long. Change can be painful. The opposite can be as well.

 

[cytor]

boobs - are why life is worth living




Just trying to bring some comedy into your lives to cheer you up I'm here for you

 

[pourcyne]

Why is life worth living? 7.87 billion people on this planet. And every one of them struggles at some time or another. Every single one. Don't be fooled by those who make it look easy. They are like ice skaters. Behind every perfect performance, there were thousands and thousands of falls.

The best way I know to combat depression is to make someone else's life better. Easier. More pleasant.

Reading this thread, we all can see that CF is overflowing with folks just like that, reaching out with words of comfort, support and kindness. Yes, even the boobs men...just like many other banalities, the occasional naughty chuckle makes life worthwhile, too.

Most importantly, do know that you are not alone, Jeremy. YOUR life is worth living. Do not forget that.

Thank you for the folks who do not have the courage or the talent to express the difficulties they're going through. You've made them feel less alone through your courage to talk about your struggle.

That alone is very, very worthwhile.

 

[Matthew-10]

I haven’t taken the time to fully read this thread. I work as a life coach and see these kinds of things daily. Have you looked into psychedelics? Tim Farriss talks about them quite a bit and I hear they have been doing good things (in micro doses) for vets.

Best of luck and remember that therapists aren’t one size fits all. Keep looking until you find a good fit.

 

[CyCrazy]

This is probably a very naïve and insensitive question and feel free to ignore the question but.....

Do you think these things are inherited or learned? Were your parents diagnosed with any of these issues?

I don't have kids so I'm pretty clueless in this field but I find it interesting.

Hereditary and enviroment. Both my daughters are already on meds for adhd. It comes from me without a doubt.

 

[deadeyededric]

I have anxiety and depression issues. I take anti-depressants which makes it pretty manageable. It used to be a way worse when I was drinking.

 

[cycloner29]

This coming from someone who lost his dad to mental illness. I found my dad after he had hung himself. This was 39 years ago and not a day goes by that I always ask the question "why?". It has affected my two sisters dearly. I still have his memory as I still have dreams where he is in them. I'm not afraid to talk about it. Since I was the only one at home at the time this happened, I had to recount the events of the day at with my whole family to help start the healing process with my sister.

We even had our 17 year old at the time reach out to his friends on social media that he was going to end his life one night. He was in the room right next to us at 10:30 at night when he did this. All of the sudden we started getting knocks on our door from a couple of his friends. So yes mental illness does run in the family. How does one react to all of this? My mom has been a rock to this day. When my dad died she talked with me and told me that I don't expect you to take over the family farm. I want you to do what you want to do. Thirty nine years later.... people are amazed that with everything we went through, that I am as strong as I am. Sure there are days that I struggle, I am the only family member that lives more than an hour from home, but I just couldn't bear to stay there. Life is a constant struggle, we never make all the right choices. We fall down and get right back up. Sure our lives changed forever, but I can look back at this and honestly say that I've done pretty well for the cards that were dealt to us back in 1984.

You know that you have issues and you talk about them. That's what I did to get through. Never quit communicating. Talk to others about it. My wife and kids never got to meet my dad. They always ask me why I never talk about him. This happened back in the farm crisis in the '80s and it's just showed me the struggles he must have been hiding from us all.

Open up to others, let them understand what you are doing, just like you did by posting this thread. If I hadn't opened up and talked about it, I wouldn't be were I am today. Life had to move on, I took my mom's advice and did just that. Keep your head up!! It's a big world out there just grab onto it and take it for a ride!!

 

[cyclone13]

Another reason why life is worth living: there are a lot of wonderful people who are willing to share their experiences to strangers, although virtually in this forum.

 

[Jeremy]

Separate question - do you or others think kids add to or relieve some of the issues? I feel like it could add to anxiety but also could help keep yourself together for the sake of the kids

Personally I wouldn’t be here without my kids. They are my reason for being. Of course they add stress, especially in a situation where you sent them having many of the same traits, but seeing them every day offsets that. So a net positive in that regard, but like I said worth so much more.

 

[RagingCloner]

Mental Health issues are not discussed enough. Probably a societal issue, especially for men, considering the much higher suicide rate. As someone who only recently got much better at communicating mentalities and emotions, this has been a neat experience with this forum today. It allows us all to be secretly vulnerable in a way, while still "saving face" if you will. All of you that have opened up, thanks. It inspires those of us that are still figuring things out.

 

[Jeremy]

Just got back from several hours at the Dr for having had a TIA stroke today, my third in 10 years. Each caused by extreme stress, anxiety, etc creating physical issues. Scientifically proven unfortunately. Also sitting here with a blood pressure of 195/112, down from 210/125 earlier today. That’s despite yesterday having 138/85.

So to those that ask if mental can impact physical, yes.