Sometimes I want to say.... "Say What One More Time" in a Jules Winnfield tone ... when 'What?' is the common reply to most any level of conversation.
Friday OT #2 - The Unforgivable Curses
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I've probably posted this half a dozen times on CF. People who feel it's just fine to pull out their filthy snot filled handkerchief while people are dining and blow it full of their loose snot. It has ALWAYS grossed me out since I was a wee child and it still does. You should not be dealing with any bodily wastes at the table while others are eating. I mean, you wouldn't squat down and poop, wipe, then go back to eating would you?
If you have to evacuate your nostrils excuse yourself and leave the room to do it. Thank you. If you have to do it more than once per meal you're probably sick and should not be dining with others.
This seems to be mostly elderly men who do this.
If you have to evacuate your nostrils excuse yourself and leave the room to do it. Thank you. If you have to do it more than once per meal you're probably sick and should not be dining with others.
This seems to be mostly elderly men who do this.
Hearing people chew.
"Reply all" emails.
The words "hubby" and "wifey."
People who don't turn their headlights on when it's raining/gray.
People clipping their fingernails in the workplace.
People who have speakerphone/facetime conversations in public.
Just off the top of my head.
"Reply all" emails.
The words "hubby" and "wifey."
People who don't turn their headlights on when it's raining/gray.
People clipping their fingernails in the workplace.
People who have speakerphone/facetime conversations in public.
Just off the top of my head.
It's actually got a name: misophonia. I wish I could get past allowing those types of noises making me sick to my stomach, but I cannot. If I'm in a restaurant or any situation with noise otherwise, the chewing and smacking gets obscured so I'm not 'forced' to focus on it. My hearing is super sensitive and always has been, so stuff like that really gets amplified. I hate it so much - both the chewing AND my reaction.
I have a saying for that. "People in the front of the line are NEVER in a hurry."
To me it's like saying 'can't do anything about it' which is what you can say for a thunderstorm when you planned to hike or something, but usually I hear it about things where something can be done about it.
Like if someone with mobility issues is really sedentary in their behavior, and exercising regularly would benefit them greatly, they just say 'it is what it is' when that doesn't have to be the way that it is.
People leaving their car at the gas pump while they go in to get something. I understand it if you don't have a card that works at the pump so you need to go in and pay, but otherwise fill up with gas then go park your car and go in and get what you need.
Also, "don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened." Being sad is ok and it's ok to feel sad that something bad has happened. Also, I'm sorry, but I can't just flip a switch and stop feeling sad.
Also, "don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened." Being sad is ok and it's ok to feel sad that something bad has happened. Also, I'm sorry, but I can't just flip a switch and stop feeling sad.
I sort of remembered there was a name for it and could NOT remember it! Thank you! I get a pretty strong revulsion. So I sort of try to eat like a squirrel not to cause it in others!
I guess I get that. I usually use it in a past sense way as in “this has happened and dwelling over it is pointless.”
This reminds me: when people think that mindfulness is basically as you described: just take a few deep breaths and think of sunlight and all's well, when really, it's about taking the time to really FEEL your emotions and work through them in a way that can lead to a positive outcome.
Have you heard of misophonia? I think I have it, perhaps you do too.
For me, the sound of liquid being poured absolutely enrages me, and I can't explain it. The "glug glug" of pouring wine. The sound of a pouring a pitcher of lemonade. When a TV or radio commercial for beer or pop really blares the sound of the pour, then the fizz, then the "ahhhhh" after the drink. When Williams and Blum pour another round of Cody Road right into the microphone during their podcast. All of this stuff makes me want to jump out of my skin. I can't take it. (This effect is always orders of magnitude worse when other people pour then when I do, again for reasons I can't explain.)
There are other sounds, like chewing and the occasional mouth sounds like clicking you can hear on a podcast with good microphones, that also annoy me or a more normal level.
Related to this. What about people (again, usually men) who talk while they're chewing? Usually loud talkers. That end up spewing some of their food all over the place. I knew several people like that.
Same with listening to music on speaker.
You had the money for the phone, but not earbuds? And you really need music on when you're in Walgreens?
I missed your post while I was typing mine. We should start a support group.
Isn't that crazy, how there are certain sounds? Certain clicking makes me punchy, too. It isn't an ill feeling, like others get - it just makes me really angry and tense. I am sometimes a little ball of rage, I don't process a ton of other emotions.
I seem to be on a food/dining/eating theme right now.
What about the tradition of blowing out birthday candles then feeding the cake to everyone at the party?
I'm thinking, "Alright, he/she's going to blow all over the cake. And I know there are at least microscopic liquid particle from his/her mouth landing on the frosting. Do I really want to eat that now?"
I kind of base it on the action. Is it a nice dry gentle blow? Or is there obvious spittle coming out?
More often than not I'll pass. Sometimes I just eat the cake part and work around the frosting.
What about the tradition of blowing out birthday candles then feeding the cake to everyone at the party?
I'm thinking, "Alright, he/she's going to blow all over the cake. And I know there are at least microscopic liquid particle from his/her mouth landing on the frosting. Do I really want to eat that now?"
I kind of base it on the action. Is it a nice dry gentle blow? Or is there obvious spittle coming out?
More often than not I'll pass. Sometimes I just eat the cake part and work around the frosting.
I use for messes that are just going to happen and out of your control. You can’t control it so just leave it and move on.
