Wish me luck

As someone said a year ago, please continue to provide the occasional update. One never knows when a sentence or two may make a world of difference to one of us.
There's a reason these are called "message" boards.
 
Congrats and keep it up. You've made people proud. Thanks for letting us know you are still working it.
 
That's a huge first step and one of many, but people will be there to support you. Don't be afraid to lean on someone when you need it! :yes:


Agreed. Hope you have a good support system. Most of us don't make big steps forward like this without lots of help from those around us.
 
Good morning all.

Just popped in to say there have been many of you who have messaged me with either well-wishes or seeking advice/reassurance with their own struggles. Thank you for the continued support and to those who wonder about themselves - now is the best time to quit. You're never alone.

On Saturday a friend was getting married and I had to go to the store and buy some alcohol as there was a mix up at the reception hall. It was the first time I had stepped foot into such a place in over a year. When I saw all the bottles and pretty layouts and great advertising I wanted to drink right then and there. I remembered what a neat experience it was to go and buy the coolest bottles and most rare whiskey I could find. It brought back many good memories.

Needless to say, I bought what I came for and delivered it as promised. I did not drink at the reception but found this out about myself: it is easier to avoid temptation in the first place than put myself in a compromising situation. Even though it's been a great 16 months I still wonder if I made the right choice; surely I can drink a bit here and there and be fine, right? Going to the liquor store gave me those thoughts so I think it's best if I continue to avoid it.


Interesting experience. Glad you got through it okay. If the same situation came up again, would you go to the liquor store? Or would you find some other way to help get the situation taken care of?
 
Hi all, going on 4 years now. Just dropped in to say I realize how many friends I've lost since I stopped drinking. It's made me a bit sad but its certainly not a reason to start again.

I see pictures from people doing things I used to do but haven't called me in 2 years to participate. Anything from golf to softball to whatever...

Maybe I'm just not fun sober.
 
Hi all, going on 4 years now. Just dropped in to say I realize how many friends I've lost since I stopped drinking. It's made me a bit sad but its certainly not a reason to start again.

I see pictures from people doing things I used to do but haven't called me in 2 years to participate. Anything from golf to softball to whatever...

Maybe I'm just not fun sober.

Thanks for the update. Glad to hear you’re still beating this.
 
Hi all, going on 4 years now. Just dropped in to say I realize how many friends I've lost since I stopped drinking. It's made me a bit sad but its certainly not a reason to start again.

I see pictures from people doing things I used to do but haven't called me in 2 years to participate. Anything from golf to softball to whatever...

Maybe I'm just not fun sober.


It takes a few years but you will develop new ones. Haven’t read the whole thread, but if you have kids then other parents at kids events become your new friends whether you want them to or not.
 
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Hi all, going on 4 years now. Just dropped in to say I realize how many friends I've lost since I stopped drinking. It's made me a bit sad but its certainly not a reason to start again.

I see pictures from people doing things I used to do but haven't called me in 2 years to participate. Anything from golf to softball to whatever...

Maybe I'm just not fun sober.

I'm pretty sure your just fine sober. Your friend group will adjust overtime. Congratulations on the 4 yr winning streak.
 
Hi all, going on 4 years now. Just dropped in to say I realize how many friends I've lost since I stopped drinking. It's made me a bit sad but its certainly not a reason to start again.

I see pictures from people doing things I used to do but haven't called me in 2 years to participate. Anything from golf to softball to whatever...

Maybe I'm just not fun sober.
You may have lost friends but you won your life back.
 
You probably have found that you are more productive and have what seems a lot more time on your hands. Those hangovers destroy a lot of open time.
 
Hi all, going on 4 years now. Just dropped in to say I realize how many friends I've lost since I stopped drinking. It's made me a bit sad but its certainly not a reason to start again.

I see pictures from people doing things I used to do but haven't called me in 2 years to participate. Anything from golf to softball to whatever...

Maybe I'm just not fun sober.




Yeah, that's the last thing to worry about.

When I was heavily into my blackout drunk phase I never failed to not have people tell me how "funny" I was.

Then I had to do my Joe Pesci bit.

It got tiring.

I don't think "friends I've lost" is an accurate accounting of things.
 
I actually just thought of you this past week, and was wondering how everything was going. Glad you're still at it.

"Friends" who want you around just because you're a "funny drunk"...don't seem like very good friends to me.

Keep it up, anon!
 
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You admitted you had a problem, you made your self a promise, and now 4 years later you are still keeping with your promise. You are a success story and you need to talk to others that were in your same situation. I applauded what you have done!!!
 
Hi all, going on 4 years now. Just dropped in to say I realize how many friends I've lost since I stopped drinking. It's made me a bit sad but its certainly not a reason to start again.

I see pictures from people doing things I used to do but haven't called me in 2 years to participate. Anything from golf to softball to whatever...

Maybe I'm just not fun sober.
That's very impressive, I have a lot of respect for you and wish you all the best.
 
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Hi all, going on 4 years now. Just dropped in to say I realize how many friends I've lost since I stopped drinking. It's made me a bit sad but its certainly not a reason to start again.

I see pictures from people doing things I used to do but haven't called me in 2 years to participate. Anything from golf to softball to whatever...

Maybe I'm just not fun sober.


If people don't seem to want to hang around you because you don't drink anymore, then probably not the type of people that would have your back anyways when push comes to shove. Keep at it!
 
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Holy cow! You are one amazing Cyclone fan! As others have said, "Friends who only like you drunk" really belong in a different category of acquaintances now. Fun is a subjective adjective. Mature is what I'd call myself now if I were you.
 

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