Inlaws, do you like them?
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Some get along with inlaws perfectly. Sounds like your case is similar to mine. It takes time. Eventually, you will learn to 'understand' each other. If not, I give you 3 years...tops.
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EDIT: Would be a good idea, IMO, to ask for a blessing before popping the question.
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EDIT: Would be a good idea, IMO, to ask for a blessing before popping the question.
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I was lucky enough to marry a woman whose parents are divorced and both be remarried, so I have two sets of in laws. The parents are great and have been quick to accept me as part of the family. For me the difficult part hasn't been the relationship between me and the in-laws, but more just getting used to sharing family events like holidays and such. It's pretty much impossible to please everyone, so don't even try.
I would be curious to hear a story about somebody who didn't get the blessing. That would be awkward.
Do you mean somebody just not asking at all, or someone actually being shot down by the father? Maybe it makes me sound like a huge jerk, but the thought never really occurred to me to ask my wife's parents. Although I do recall a conversation with my wife's biological father where I told him I was going to marry his sooner than later. And I had a similar conversation with my wife's mother.
My wife is the baby of ten kids, so it's a pick 'em. Love most of her siblings, but some are trouble. Her sister's husbands (my BILs) are awesome though so love them. If not for them not sure I'd have lasted in the family!
Like mine for the most part. I think we have learned to accept each other. Wasn't so sure at the start. F-I-L is a farmer who basically can fix anything... Plumbing, electrical, framing, welding, rebuild engines. Pretty sure he thought I was a waste at first because I pay others to do those things for me. My M-I-L is a little overbearing. Has caused some tension between us in the past but things have been good for the past 2-3 years.
Im in the middle of planning a wedding where my Fiance and Mom are disagreeing with each other quite a bit. Its the worst thing ever.
Meh. Just wait till you get to the planning stage where Fiance starts disagreeing with your M-I-L-to-be.
That's duck and cover time.
Those 2 disagree with each other every time they talk. I'm used to that. What I'm struggling with is trying to make my mom happy, and trying to make fiance happy.
ROCK - me - HARD PLACE
I plead the fifth.
But hey, as long as they aren't threatening to kill you, you're probably doing ok!*
*this has legit happened in my family
But hey, as long as they aren't threatening to kill you, you're probably doing ok!*
*this has legit happened in my family
I think my father initially didn't want to give my husband his ok (even though mom was like *******, what are you doing?!)
He wanted me to "date more guys". Though my mom pointed out "what if she marries a guy from CA (husband's family is local) and they move out there and you never see her?
Mostly it was dad not wanting to let go and admit that his daughter was old enough to get married. He likes my husband a lot, just to clarify.
CycloneErik
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If you're at the point that you're asking the father, it should be a slam dunk that the whole family really already knows is coming. It's a courtesy and a formality.
If there's a shooting down, someone is doing it very wrong.
let me speak from experience. Your job is to make your wife happy (by happy, I mean support/back her up). Unless she is promoting something illegal/immoral, you and her are one unit. You do not sit in the middle. You are on your wife's side. Period.
CycloneErik
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I have plans for whatever jerk wants to date Zoe. I figure that I'll just sit there silently while he stumbles all over himself, maybe asking a question here and there like "Huh, I thought you wanted to talk?" Basically, I just want to make that goober cry.
lol, then make comments about needing to go clean your gun! My dad is weird like that. He showed no emotion when I left for college, but my siblings told me later on that he cried. Same thing with the wedding. He really likes my husband but it was the whole "no way she's old enough to get married" thing, and then he got all teary-eyed at the wedding. Change, he's not a fan of change and realizing that time passes! Mom told me that when my husband drove home to ask, they spent the first 20 minutes talking about the weather, hahaha.
btw, how many weeks(ish) until your little girl is here? It has to be getting close!
LOL, I also like how you say "jerk" hahahahaha. What if he's a very nice, scholarly man who loves history? Is he less of a jerk then?
