I have nobody to talk to. I can't talk to my friends because I don't want them to know. SO anonymous internet message board is the best place for me. WTF do I do? I caught her on accident by her text messages on her phone. I confronted her last night. we stayed up all night talking. I still have not slept. It was with one of my buddies. We have been married for 5 years and together for 8. i'm so lost right now.