Teams
Forum List
Toggle sidebar

Friday OT-What did you call me?

wxman1

wxman1

Well-Known Member
Jul 2, 2008
18,427
13,834
113
Cedar Rapids
Filling in for @Angie as she continues to be a world traveler or something.

Especially for those of us that find ourselves married. What do you call your in-laws? My FIL calls his in-laws mom and dad which I have always found odd. I just call them by their first name.

A secondary one would be non traditional names for grandparents.
 
  • Friendly
Reactions: Angie
My wife's family is from Oklahoma. One of her uncles always referred to me as "Dam Yankee" for 10 years after we married until the day he died. Not sure he ever knew what me name was.
 
  • Funny
Reactions: wxman1
Deceased, unfortunately.

First names while living. Our SIL/DILs call us by first names, might be something else for me privately
 
wxman1 said:
Filling in for @Angie as she continues to be a world traveler or something.

Especially for those of us that find ourselves married. What do you call your in-laws? My FIL calls his in-laws mom and dad which I have always found odd. I just call them by their first name.

A secondary one would be non traditional names for grandparents.
Click to expand...
My parents did the same with my grandparents, definitely a generational thing.

First names here.
 
  • Like
Reactions: cyfreddy
I call my in-laws morons. I avoid them as much as possible. If I have to use a name I use first names. In-laws aren’t blood. Don’t use blood names.
 
intrepid27 said:
My wife's family is from Oklahoma. One of her uncles always referred to me as "Dam Yankee" for 10 years after we married until the day he died. Not sure he ever knew what me name was.
Click to expand...
He knew Oklahoma wasn’t in the Confederacy right? It was still a Native American reservation called “Indian Territory” during the Civil War and just kind of its own entity
 
  • Like
Reactions: 20eyes and wxman1
wxman1 said:
Filling in for @Angie as she continues to be a world traveler or something.

Especially for those of us that find ourselves married. What do you call your in-laws? My FIL calls his in-laws mom and dad which I have always found odd. I just call them by their first name.

A secondary one would be non traditional names for grandparents.
Click to expand...
I call my in-laws by their first names.

Kind of an aside, but I know spouses that refer to each other as “mom” and “dad” and that’s strange to me.
 
  • Winner
Reactions: Angie
While I thought of my FIL as like a second dad, I never would have called him dad to his face. I called him by his first name, same with the MIL.

My wife has an aunt that thinks of me as her nephew which I find weird. I would never refer to her as my aunt, only as my wife's aunt.
 
Last edited:
No in-laws for me, but all my siblings & their spouses refer to the in laws by their first name (my one BIL still refers to my dad as Mr. --- sometimes).

What do people call either your parents friends or your friends parents? And has has it changed when you got to be an adult?
 
Al_4_State said:
I call my in-laws by their first names.

Kind of an aside, but I know spouses that refer to each other as “mom” and “dad” and that’s strange to me.
Click to expand...
We do in front of the kids but other than that no.
Sousaclone said:
No in-laws for me, but all my siblings & their spouses refer to the in laws by their first name (my one BIL still refers to my dad as Mr. --- sometimes).

What do people call either your parents friends or your friends parents? And has has it changed when you got to be an adult?
Click to expand...
This is a good one. Growing up it was Mr./Mrs. XYZ but I have tended to be more first name now that I am in my 30s.
 
I think mine were in Witness Protection. Neither one of them went by their real names. Everyone was on a first name basis, though.
 
Sousaclone said:
What do people call either your parents friends or your friends parents? And has has it changed when you got to be an adult?
Click to expand...

Yeah it would be Mr or Mrs back in the day when we were elementary age. Once we were in later high school though, and were on good terms, we'd say "hi Ted's mom" or "hi Doug's dad" as kind of a middle ground between too formal and first-name.

My kids probably was more first names, once the parent said "just call me (first name)" with their friends - which is usually what people do now introducing themselves to a kid. They would use sir/ma'am a lot with newly met adults though, just a TKD habit.
 
I started off calling my inlaws by their first names. My mother passed after I had been married for about 2 years. At that point my MIL started morphing into my mother figure (we had a great relationship) and I started calling her Mom. FIL, I flipped back & forth between first name & dad, but usually dad as he and my ex shared the same first name.

Second set of inlaws, it was first name for FIL as he was a step dad & everyone called him by his first name. His mother I called by her first name as we were never really close.
 
I just call my in laws by their first names and I am sure my wife would prefer that too. Pretty sure my FIL would have found it creepy and shut that down right away if I ever called him dad.

As for grandparents I don't really remember me calling them anything other than grandpa and grandma but my brother would call them paw paw and granny.
 
First names. My MIL died a few years ago. FIL remarried and I just can’t call her my MIL. Nice lady & I like her. I introduce her (to new people she hasn’t met) as my FIL’s wife and give her first name.
 
In-laws are called by their first names.

The grandparent thing is interesting. When my daughter was pregnant with our first grandchild, my wife insisted that she would be Grammy and I would be Grampy. My argument was 'no way...the first grandkid gets to choose'. They all insisted that we needed names before the kid was old enough to talk/choose for himself and that was that. I said fine, I will be Grandmaster J. Naturally, that did not fly and I am now Grampy.
 
  • Funny
  • Like
Reactions: NWICY and wxman1
SouthJerseyCy said:
In-laws are called by their first names.

The grandparent thing is interesting. When my daughter was pregnant with our first grandchild, my wife insisted that she would be Grammy and I would be Grampy. My argument was 'no way...the first grandkid gets to choose'. They all insisted that we needed names before the kid was old enough to talk/choose for himself and that was that. I said fine, I will be Grandmaster J. Naturally, that did not fly and I am now Grampy.
Click to expand...

You will always be Grandmaster J to us.
 
  • Agree
  • Like
Reactions: ImJustKCClone and wxman1
You must log in or register to reply here.

Help Support Us

Become a patron
Top Bottom